Behaviors We Don’t Always Recognize as Self-Harming

Self-harm is one of the most distressing and problematic behaviors that may affect parents, caregivers, family members, and children with autism and such people may face the resulting problems. The incidence of this behavior often has vague and complex causes and poses risks to health and quality of life. Interventions in the usual way are not the solution and most of the time requires specialized measures.

What are self-harming behaviors?

Self-harm refers to behaviors in which a person causes harm to himself or herself by performing movements and actions. And is sometimes referred to as self-harming behaviors and may occur in various forms: knocking on the door and walls and other surfaces, biting hands or arms, pulling hair, dipping fingers in eyes, hitting head or face, scratching, pulling the skin, and shaking head vigorously.

Has anyone ever thought that what we do is good for them? Or are you hurting yourself? When most people talk about. They often refer to self-harming behaviors such as slitting or cutting, for example, but these are not the only ways to harm one. Because sometimes we hurt ourselves without our knowledge.

Such as behaviors that we do not expect to harm ourselves. It hurts ourselves indirectly so we don’t realize it. Because hurting yourself isn’t always about causing physical pain. Therefore, innocuous behavior can lead to serious harm to itself.

It is important to keep in mind that sometimes apparent behavior is not always the self-harming thing. Because what controls our behavior is the harmful thought processes and behind the behavior. This is why we must be aware of our self-harm. Let’s look at what behaviors hurt us.

Negative symptoms

Negative here refers to the overstretched thoughts that arise from the cognitive processes. It makes us feel depressed, for example, we accidentally spend it which makes us feel depressed. Caused depression, blamed yourself, etc.

Separate yourself from others

Many people become bored, wanting to sleep, and secluded from society. Until one day we thought that no one wanted and that no one could accept himself. This is one way of hurting yourself without your knowledge.

Put the needs of others and prefer their own needs.

The most self-harming behavior is to put other people’s needs ahead of their own needs. Without thinking that these things are hurting your own thoughts, for example, a friend called late at night where we were going to sleep. Because tomorrow goes to work early But must follow the wishes of friends because you don’t want your friends to feel alone

 Holding on to inhibiting thoughts

You can actually see this as the emergence of subconscious thoughts of self-harm. “I will not succeed, I know.

Failure to act

Although not taking action is a passive symptom, it is still harmful. If we know something will go wrong and we do not take the necessary steps, it actually means guaranteeing failure.

Eating excessively

Overeating also results in long-term health problems. Overeating is one of the most common types of Self-Harming behavior that has negative effects on people with it. Overeating is a behavior in which the person harms himself. Approximately 2% of the world’s population suffers from binge overeating disorder. 

Eating less

Many people who do not eat enough say they do it for their own sake. However, there is often a problem with the personal appearance or other psychological reasons.

Appearing inadequate by force

The fact that a person deliberately shows him inadequate to achieve something is actually a reflection of his insecurity in some matters.

Behaving out of the ordinary to harm others

The negative things that a person feels towards himself begin to harm not only himself but also those around him after a while.

Did not hurt yourself

Self-harm is a state of self-dislike and can have serious psychological and mental consequences.

Don’t feel sorry

Self-pity is one of the unconscious reflections of harmful behavior. Self-pity is a thought that prevents and discourages a person from taking action.

Using alcohol and drugs

Excessive alcohol and/or drug use, which is one of the material examples of self-harming behavior, creates endless damages in the personal world, family relationships, and social environment.

Don’t hide your emotions

Avoiding facing negative and sometimes positive emotions; has serious mental, emotional and psychological consequences.

Refusing help

Failure to listen to advice, refuse to consult an expert, and generally refuse to accept help is actually a form of personal sabotage. 

Don’t spend a lot of money

It may surprise you that gambling or unnecessary shopping is on this list. However, excessive spending is also one of the methods of self-harm.

Sabotage of relationships

Sabotage of relationships with many types such as jealousy, excessive possession, emotional manipulation, and violence is actually a reflection of the person’s thought “I am not worthy of being loved”.

Given all of this, sometimes it may not be that easy to actually avoid self-injurious behavior. The most important thing to do in such situations is to remember that you are not alone and not be afraid to ask for help.

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